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     Okay, so “E” = energy, just ask Eisenstein. Our “E”motions are just that, energy. They have potential to create power, and they are powerful. They tend to lead our actions over logic; in most cases, they control us, or that is, control our actions by how we feel. Control is power.
     Sometimes the control is purely physical reaction and we may choose not to act accordingly, but that does not mean we did not feel it. It does not mean we did not have a repercussion of physical reaction in our body. Hormones, and all those other fun little chemicals, are released; they are released and doing their work.
It is our mental and physiological hardwiring.
     Emotions can be beneficial; fear for instance, can get us out of a burning building quicker and our adrenal glands hop in to help ensure our success. Fear is a hardwired emotion for survival. Other emotions feel warm and fuzzy. But there is a truth in emotions that few seem to understand.
      By and large, emotions are simply mental and physiological chemical responses called neurotransmissions.
    What they are transmitting is associative memory recall reactions.
     Our brain, like any computer, stores everything that ever happened to us; it stores every thought, every feeling. If something felt good in our past, and that something comes up again, we automatically jump backwards in time to that feel-good sensation. It is a subjective response, one with absence of reasoning.
The same thing happens with past stressors. That is
hard, cold, fact. Emotions are memories we recall and associate to, which in turn stimulate our reactions.
There is nothing warm and fuzzy about it.
     Feelings can be warm and fuzzy, but, feelings can be painful, and they can hurt. Yet true feelings are in the present, not in the past. Emotions, as stated above, are in the past. The feelings in the now may reinforce the emotions, but the emotional root lies in our past. So?
     So this, our emotions tend to control (dominate) our actions in the now. They rob us of experiencing the now. Why? Because they are in the past. The more we utilize those neurotransmissions, the stronger that mental link becomes. Alternatively, the less we use them, the less we associate everything to our past, and the freer we are to experience the now. Those hardwired neurological links dwindle and virtually fall away.
     Experiences in the past are like tape recordings to tell us what is in the now. That, disserves us. It bars us from seeing truth, truth of “what is.” We form attachments to those feelings of past, attachments that disserve us for they then keep us locked into the past. Attachments form expectations, expectations of what was, as though now is. Expectations disserve us, for expectations of the past, fail the now. Everything changes, but expectations say no, expectations say the past still is and will be. But that is
a lie. The deeper the attachment is, the deeper that expectation is.
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     Did you ever hear that love has no expectations? How then, can we love? Certainly not by emotions. Love is not an emotion. Love is an action in the now, an experience of the now. In the past, love is only a lingering emotion (memory) of what was.
     So what do we do with emotions? They have purpose; they have a function, at least at a very base level of our existence. First and foremost, we can acknowledge them, acknowledge them for what they are. Their basis may be functional, but that has a very limited truth in our now.
     Truth in our now is that the building is not burning. But our emotional base of fear for survival can take that emotion and run rampant; and it does. It is a first chakra experience of blockage. It diminishes
our wellbeing of healthy living. When we acknowledge that only the very minimal base of fear need have presence (get me out of the burning building) we can be in charge of that emotional response. Fear, and the hardwiring to it, can diminish to virtually nothing. In fact, in can turn into trust that we will in fact get
out of the building should it indeed be on fire.
     We also tend to use our identification with our emotions as our identification of self. “I am short tempered,” “I am a loving _________,” “I am unworthy of _________,” “I am such a crybaby,” “I am ashamed because __________.” Those are emotions at work. They are not who we are. They are only what we have felt in reaction to where we have been. Where we have been is not who we are, and our emotions of those experiences, do not make us who we are.
     Our emotions do not need to bind us; they are not a contract with anyone but ourselves. By and large, they do not serve us. If I give a poor man a billion dollars, he will probably
do one of two things. A - He might hoard it
in fear of being poor and live like a poor man. Or B – He will wantonly spend it all, fulfilling his emotional base of being poor, and thus prove it right. Emotions do not make us who we are … unless we let them. In either case, the feeling of being wealthy will have never hit him. He lives in the past, and not the now. It is a choice.
     Of course you say, “I am different!”  Really? We as humans, tend to live by those very rules
of existence. We tend to be poor in the now, by emotions of the past.
     What we might call “positive” or “feel-good” emotions do the same thing. And that is our common downfall to understanding emotions and letting them go. Love and caring we experienced as an infant might have been real in those early days. It becomes the basis for attachment, and then the basis for expectation. In those days our survival needs were simplistic and probably met (well or otherwise) or you would not be here to read this. With survival needs met, we establish trust, and no matter how those needs were met, we make a trusting (loving – caring – cared for) association, and then an attachment to the source. The deeper the attachment is, the deeper the expectations that follow are.
     But life is not static; life changes, everything changes. Parent – child relationships change; as a child grows, their needs grow too. Parental – child dependency does not stay the same, but those infant feelings of trust (cared for – loving) and feel-good experiences are now emotional responses. Emotional responses will not change on their own. It is only we that can change them, we the individual.
      I have seen too many relationships that started out loving and caring, but gone asunder. Why? Because too much of the loving – cared for feeling was based on that infant emotional experience, and, the expectations. All the associations and attachments had led to expectations that no one could meet. In truth, even the original parental figure cannot meet them anymore, at least not in the same ways.
We literally become addicted to our emotions,
and conversely,
our emotions often become the source of our addictions.
     Emotional addictions can range from fearful health disorders to our quest for love. Addictions commonly arise to pacify unmet emotional expectations; they are a substitute for the real thing. The real thing we are striving to fulfill is our experience of feelings in the now. Sadly though, we use emotions as the bar, the very measuring stick which our now should achieve.
     The human experience is so steeped in emotional response that it is used as a marketing tool. That tool is huge. A marketing campaign utilizing only emotion grabbing language outperforms data campaigns two-to-one. And that is just language based.
If one includes visual feel-good picture elements,
it automatically jumps the numbers higher; they
are after one thing, your emotional response.
     It gets worse though. For the most part, people cannot define their emotions, let alone where they came from, or why they choose to attach themselves to such emotions. Thus, emotions often run wild and dominate one’s life. All the while, the emotional responder, the person in question, will never have a clue.
      The term emotional baggage, is just that; baggage of the past that we carry into our feelings of now. Our task becomes to see emotions for what they are, and to eliminate our attachments, and expectations, to those that do not serve us. We then can travel lightly, and unfettered along our path. The more we do this, the freer we become to live the glorious feelings of Now.

Related pages:

Re Solve
                       ​ A look at resolving hurt feelings.

​​Snippets of Wisdom on Forgiving

Healthy Anger IX
                      Discovery and Getting to the Root​

​​​Healthy Anger XI
         The Active Emotional Past and the Six Steps to Forgiving​​

Snippets of Wisdom on Acceptance

Starting NOW
                                      A look at embracing the NOW

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Once we recognize our emotions and their basis, we do have yet a further task at hand. That task is to resolve those based on hurt or otherwise self-defeating feelings from our past. Our failure to do this robs us of ever releasing their dominance over us.
Sometimes, it is as easy as seeing where those feelings came from and honoring that they were unTruth about us. For the most part though, emotions carry attachments to the source of those ill-experienced feelings and we must look to forgiving. That forgiving is truly about resolving or past toward a happier and healthier life in the Now.
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